tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2972476768782010154.post7773688868898938314..comments2023-09-22T05:59:57.598-05:00Comments on Tao of Freddie's Modern Kung Fu: Introduction, America and The first major painful vison that I ever saw...Sifu Freddie Leehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17960104415761744671noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2972476768782010154.post-27674699537864052712013-02-15T23:48:38.025-06:002013-02-15T23:48:38.025-06:00And this is the reason why my semi-conservative pa...And this is the reason why my semi-conservative parents wanted me to became more devoted to Roman Catholicism as they think religion has something to do with strong relationships.Engineer Wannabeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07623956905198224235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2972476768782010154.post-25441541214989152752013-02-15T23:40:42.992-06:002013-02-15T23:40:42.992-06:00Like my most classmates said "marriage is a j...Like my most classmates said "marriage is a joke, nowadays". They even admit it that they don't want to do it in a serious way and someone even prefer cohabitation. I have one classmate who's been divorced for many years. She's not afraid to admit the reason is the fact she's not having fun anymore and her kids are not even at a good condition. Thats my real life example there. My another one was when I was eating lunch at the sushi bar this lady with her 'hired expert' were talking(more like an arguing). She keeps saying on what she's been suspecting from her former husband negatively. Her expert sensed her bitter feeling towards her ex and ask her "why not give him another chance" and he said it to her face that she's the real reason why the family had collapsed after herresponse: "he's a douchebag okay" . I just ended up eating awkwardly and nothing was interesting in NFL TV, so I paid the chef and leave. Lol.Engineer Wannabeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07623956905198224235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2972476768782010154.post-6839260661235584492013-02-15T17:43:28.637-06:002013-02-15T17:43:28.637-06:00Oki Aaron, welcome to the conversation. When I loo...Oki Aaron, welcome to the conversation. When I look at what's going on with marriage in particular, I see a couple of things. You are right, that men or women, after a break-up, may adopt a victim discourse, and deny their own role in the failed relationship. However, what what I primarily observe is that we are being culturally trained to pursue short-term benefits, and accept disposability. So many things now, both material and social - including architecture, furniture, appliances, automobiles, jobs, marriages, master-apprentice relationships, etc - are valued only for the immediate boost in utility, or ability, or social status, or EGO that are entailed in our early engagements with them. Everything now seems to have about a five-year (or less) life cycle. This was not the cultural reality of my grandparents, who were willing to stick it out in their marriage regardless of all kinds of infidelities and other discords, because their values were focused on the long term. Like their relationships, their material expectations were different as well. When they bought anything, from a dining room table to a simple screw-driver, they bought quality. With proper maintenance (which they absolutely did perform), it would be the last table or screwdriver they'd ever need. We're not being taught anything today about our personal responsibilities in maintaining either material possessions, or social relations. If something breaks, we either take it to an expert fixer, or (far more often) we throw it away and pursue another. And this is the culture I see carrying into marriagesAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03462714824823663318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2972476768782010154.post-28169577526492959402013-02-15T15:21:18.706-06:002013-02-15T15:21:18.706-06:00Excellent post! I believe that the reason why soci...Excellent post! I believe that the reason why society has many chaos is because of our own ego. The ego always play the blame game and never take responsibility for its action. Like you said, when some women cannot deal with their pain, they bring it to someone else. Same can be for the men too. Some men, after they came out of a bad relationship, they look for women only to be in bed with them and break their heart. What's even sadder is that society values these men! They value men who cannot deal with their pain and drop the pain to someone else. Of course, you are right. We are responsible for every chaos we bring to the world. Peace!Kanghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03225222198944464384noreply@blogger.com