It is about 3am but I decided to share what I went through. I was at a club today with my brother from Montreal and we met new people. After a couple of chit-chat, we decided to go for a little dance. I did dance a little but take some few pauses. Then I notice a very pretty lady who dance quite well. Since I want to overcome my insecurities with the pretty lady, I decided to talk to her and tell her how impressive her dance moves are. She told me that I haven't seen anything yet. In mind I was saying "ok...". Next thing you know, she started dancing in front of one of my friends. Since I was not facing her, she was trying to get her hands in my pocket so she can pick up my wallet. As soon as I felt it, I quickly grabbed my pocket after that she went away.
If I drank at the club, I am pretty sure I would not notice she was robbing me. Thanks to my alertness and awareness, I was able to avoid being a victim. Now I am wondering, are all pretty girls like that or only the ones at the club? Why would she use her beauty to get money like that from people? Well, I guess it is because she is hired at a corrupted place. How else? Now why did she decide to work at that place? Only her can answer that question. If I know that place is so corrupted, why was I even here? Is it because my brothers and my friends went so I have to? I gave up drinking of course but do I really have to be there? Before giving up clubbing all of a sudden, I rather give these questions some thoughts. If I can answer them one day, maybe I will stop giving these clubs that much of attention. I have to admit, that experience made me doubt pretty ladies a little bit more. I know some guys think they are entitled just because they are with one of the most beautiful girls without even knowing what their intentions are. While these guys can benefit from these relationships, these girls can set them a trap too! Be careful. That's all I am saying.
You're sure she worked there? I'd consider calling the owner and reporting it. It's normal for dancers or drink servers to flirt, tease, lie, and play games with men to get bigger tips, but nobody should ever grab your wallet!
ReplyDeleteAlso, it's not just attractive women. I have seen some pretty unattractive women manipulate men by being overly flirty and sexual. So I think maybe you should be extra cautious of the overly flirty ones. And just be aware in general. You never know what people are going to try to do.
There's also a high risk of being drugged in bars for men and women. I've known men who have been drugged because somebody wanted to try to rob them, so it's not just women who need to be cautious about that either.
It's a good thing you weren't drunk and noticed what she was doing!
Maybe you go to those places to have fun or test your social skills. There's probably nothing wrong with that as long as you're careful.
The overly flirty ones are the one I need to be more careful of. The categorization is something humanity has been conditioned to make for many years. That's how the society got me. It makes me think of the attractive women to be always deceiving. In fact not all of them are like that. Maybe that is what my insecurity is coming from. On contacting the owner, my brother and friends did not stay too long for me to do so but if I stayed longer, that woman would have regret this!
DeleteThere are a lot of crazy things going on in these places. I would have imagine how a drunk or drugged would not be aware of it because I used to drink alcohol myself but I stop that because I believe it is destroying my health and making me more shy than I already am. As I stop drinking, I was aware of pretty much everything going on. If I was drunk, I would have been caught in so called the moment to the point I would have become a fool! Thanks for your advice, I really appreciate it.
I rarely heard good stuff about clubs. Well i don't even know if i ever heard something good about a club. All i know about clubs is quick fun, quick pleasures, quick dates, drugs, alcohol, fights, loud music etc... You might learn about yourself while going there, some might go there and feel good, good for them. Clubs are just illusions on a plate. Come in here, you will have the time of your life, yeah right! It's cool that you've learned something about your experience there. I've watched many people go in there and destroy themselves with a smile on their face ready to back it up.
ReplyDeleteHaha. True, their smile are not genuine at all!
DeleteTrue beauty is on the inside anyway. A "beautiful" person can loose their appeal pretty quickly if they have an ugly heart.
ReplyDeleteI think all the FMK women are beautiful, and I doubt any of them would try to steal your wallet.
Thanks for sharing your experiece with us Kang.
ReplyDeleteI do agree with Lian. Attractive women or not they can all be deceiving. Especially if you're placing yourself at a club environment, your guard should always be up! A women's intention of going to a club is coming with a group, and already they can have a blast drinking & dancing among eachother. Finding a man is merely secondary, because they know beauty, (lacked) clothing is enough to attract a man across the room. Well, as for the man is not the case, which is why you should be careful!
I can relate to your feelings about the club. Ever since joining the kwoon and being in a serious relationship my motivation to club has changed. If I was single at this moment, I doubt I'd still find myself at the club because those are not the type of men I'd want in my life. Not to say all men are like that ofcourse, but by majority they will be drunk when I talk to them, or are just looking for sex. It's very rare to find a genuine man in a scene that's no longer a part of my life. I'd be better off finding someone through friends, school (if you're still in school) , the gym, kwoon. I'm sure there are alternatives in your life that you may find a woman?...
Don't get me wrong though, going to the club is fun. I do go every now and then when friends throw celebrations, and want to go dancing with my bf; I almost always have Wei next to me. So my intentions to club has changed.
Not having alcohol at a club is a challenge, but if you can find alternatives of enjoying your time through just dancing, and having good conversation with friends. I don't see why you wouldn't have a good time? Give it a try, and maybe even doing that you'll realize that your time having good conversation is best found outside the club scene.
Thanks for your input Ai. It is fun going to a club but to find a real man talking to you and be interested into knowing who you are at these places is nonexistent. So you are right. You might as well meet them at school, gym or kwoon. Same for the men, finding a real woman at the club is almost impossible.
DeleteAs for alcohol, it took a lot of courage for me to give it up. My friends found it odd and they joke about me becoming a monk. Haha. But it does not matter what they think, I will no longer ruin my health just to please them. Do you still drink or you do not anymore?
I would be lying if I said I don't drink, but I do. Never to get drunk. And I don't like to say socially, because I know I don't need alcohol to be social. The times that I do drink are when it's in celebration with friends/family. Never a weekend routine, because I honestly don't go out as much anymore. I'm like an old lady , as I too joke around to with others. haha
DeleteI lost people in my life, because I no longer choose to club or go out drinking. And I'm ay ok with that! The best way that helped me give up the path I was going with alcohol, was distancing and avoiding those negative people. And replacing them people & that life with FMK.
Old lady. Lol you are funny. If you feel alcohol is good for you then by all means go ahead. I do not want you to feel like you have to stop drinking just because I do not. It's also nice that you replace clubbing with FMK I could find any better alternative. For that I say great job.
Deletejust to be clear, I never said alcohol is good for me?...
DeleteOh sorry. Do you feel it's hindering health too?
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