Letting Go

Letting Go

An important lesson in life is learning to let go. 

Imagine 30 times you try to shake someone’s hand and he doesn’t want to shake your hand. 

Imagine 30 times you say hello to someone and he does not say hello.

Imagine 30 times you apply for a job position and you get denied every time. 

Imagine 30 times you call someone and he does not answer the phone.

Imagine 30 times you try to hug someone and he does not want to hug. 

Imagine 30 times you say “I love you” and there is no response.

With all that effort, there comes a time when you must stop.  There comes a time when you must learn to let go. 

When the love is gone, it is gone. 

When the flower is dead, it is dead. 

When the body is gone, it is gone. 

When the rain has passed, it has passed.

We never know the outcome of life, life is always spontaneous, it is always unpredictable.  You think you can make something last but then it ends without notice. 

When you get hit by a car and you die, it is not planned.  Death can come at any moment.  Love is spontaneous like death.  One day it is living and thriving, the next day it is gone and it is gone forever, never to return again. 

When the love is gone, you must learn to let go, you must learn to move on.  In all aspects of life, this is an important lesson, we cannot hold onto the past, the past is gone, it is not living, it is not in the moment.  We must be present in this moment right now.  Open your eyes and see the beauty of this moment. 

Thinking about the negativity of the past, brings depression to this moment.  Thinking about the positivity of the past, also brings depression to this moment because you see that this moment is not the past.  The mind is projecting.  No matter if it is positive or negative, the past must be dropped completely.  When the past is dropped completely, you can be presently aware in this moment.  When you are presently aware in this moment, there is contentment, there is peace. 

Do not be stuck in between yes and no, pick yes, or pick no and be total in your decision.  If you say yes, do not wish you would have said no.  If you said no do not wish you would have said yes.  Live a life with no regrets.  Be total in everything that you do.  If you live in China, do not wish you were in America, if you live in America, do not wish you were in China; wherever you are, enjoy it to the fullest.  If you are married, do not wish you were single, if you are single, do not wish you were married, whatever position in your life, appreciate it fully, be full of gratitude. 

Everything in life happens for a reason, never be upset about any outcome to any situation.  Take every experience in life as a learning lesson; use every experience in life to perfect the art of Zen.  – SFL May 27 2015