Relationships

Relationships

Relationships are difficult to maintain, they are a challenge.  You must hold things in common in order for a relationship to last.  You must ask yourself what do you have in common with the person of whom you wish to build a relationship with?

You can build a strong friendship with a running partner until the person decides to stop running. 

You can build a strong friendship with someone who you like to play basketball with until that person decides to stop playing basketball. 

You can build a strong friendship with someone who likes to go dancing until that person decides to stop dancing. 

You can build a strong friendship with someone who likes playing chess until that person decides to stop playing chess. 

You can build a strong friendship with someone who likes to go drinking alcohol at bars until that person decides to stop drinking alcohol at bars. 

You can build a strong friendship with someone of whom you work very closely with until that person decides to quit to move onto another job. 

You can build a strong friendship with someone who likes to join you to go seeking for women a the club until that person ends up finding a girlfriend and loses all motivation to seek.

You can build a strong friendship without someone who likes to exercise with you until that person decides to stop exercising. 

When you lose things you have in common, the relationship breaks down.  If you no longer enjoy doing activities together, then there’s no reason to be together.

People mature at different rates.  What happens in a lot of cases is that if you mature a lot quicker than the people around you, you will find yourself being alone more often.  You might have had drinking buddies at the age of 21, but by the age of 25 you might have decided to give up that lifestyle, while your friends are still engaged in drinking, you decide to put your energies into other activities.  Because you have lost this common interest, the friendship ends up breaking down. 

People change, situations change. Life circumstances change.  Through all this change, it is very difficult to make relationships endure.  It requires a lot of effort from both parties to try to make things last.