A Baby's Survival

A Baby’s Survival

A baby cannot survive with just friendship.  A baby needs so much more to survive. 

A baby needs milk.

A baby needs food.

A baby needs shelter.

A baby needs clothing.

A baby needs affection.

A baby needs love.

A baby needs hugs.

A baby needs kisses.

A baby needs touch.

A baby needs verbal and nonverbal communication.

Friendship alone will not make a baby survive. 

An adult has the same needs as a baby in order to feel true contentment and peace. 

The only things that can be purchased from the market are:

Milk, food, shelter, and clothing.

The things that cannot be purchased from the market are:

Affection, love, hugs, kisses, touch, and verbal and nonverbal communication.

If you try to purchase affection, hugs, and kisses, it is prostitution, it is considered a crime.  And even if not considered a crime, it is unfulfilling without love.  It is like drinking spoiled milk or eating spoiled food, it will make you vomit and it will destroy your health. 

If you try to purchase touch, it is considered something like visiting a massage parlor.  Now this is not considered a crime, but there is a big difference when someone with much love is touching your body compared to some stranger that is touching your body for compensation.  There is a spiritual disconnect and that as well is very unfulfilling.  I is like drinking watered down 5% juice compared to drinking 100% fresh squeezed juice.  Once you have tasted the 100% fresh squeezed juice, there is no turning back to the 5% juice.  It simply is unfulfilling. 

If you try to purchase verbal and nonverbal communication, it is considered something like paying to see a psychologist.  There is a spiritual disconnect.  It is financially impractical.  It is like paying $100 for a small bottle of water.  It will only quench your thirst for the time being.  Soon enough you will be out of money and your will be back in suffering. 

When you are looking for a partner.  You are seeking a partner that is able to fulfill all the above necessities for survival.  As someone that is financially independent, you may not be dependent on your partner for milk, food, shelter, and clothing.  But you will be looking towards your partner to fulfill all the other aspects I had mentioned. 

Notice that there is no mention of sex.  The word sex has been severely corrupted.  We have turned sex into something ugly.  We have used sex as a way to exploit people.  But sex is simply an extension of human affection.  It is not absolutely needed for survival, but human affection is absolutely needed.  Sex that is shared properly is an expression of love.  Sex that is shared properly is something very beautiful.  Do not turn against sex, embrace sex as something beautiful, because it truly is a beautiful expression when expressed with great love. – SFL May 29 2015

The Problems With Casual Sex

The Problems With Casual Sex

I promote healthy sexual expression.  But inevitably I see that there are potential problems with casual sex.  We have been conditioned to be attached.  We have been conditioned to believe in private property.  We have been conditioned to be selfish.  Contraceptives lower the risk of STD’s and unwanted pregnancies, but there is no scientific technology that prevents the natural psychological and physiological attachment that comes with the expression of the sexual act.  When we share our bodies with others in intimate ways, it is natural for us to be attached. 

Sex is a natural drug.  It is like a drug addiction that can occur when you become intimate with another.  Once the addiction starts and if the supply is taken away, in this case your partner refuses to continue having sex with you, you will end up going through a withdraw, similar to the symptoms of a drug withdraw. 

It is best never to get involved with taking drugs, once addicted it will be very difficult to stop and it can bring great depression.  The same can be the problem with the addiction to sex.  A person may think that they will not be attached, but then they end up being attached.  A person may think that they will not suffer emotional pain but then they end up suffering emotional pain.  This is something that we cannot consciously control because of our conditionings. 

Meditation can train you to be free from these conditionings but most of the people in this world lack meditativeness.  Mostly everyone will suffer from psychological and emotional damage.  This pain will be so great that it will inevitably damage the friendship established.  Because of the conditioning of society, in most cases, casual sex can never be casual, nature has intended for certain chemical responses to be released when engaged in intimacy with another, these chemicals cannot be consciously controlled, they happen without your control. 

For this reason, I see that it is best to not have causal sex but to rather develop real loving relations based on mutual attraction.  The act of sex should always be meaningful, I feel that nature intended for the act of sex to be the absolute most meaningful.  We do not just allow anybody into our homes, nor should we be too comfortable in becoming intimate with just anyone.  Those we choose to become intimate with should be carefully selected.  If carefully selected, it will greatly decrease the chances of unnecessary pain and suffering.