Virgin Relationship

Virgin Relationship

“You meet a woman, you don’t think about sex at all.  Only pathological people thing about sex, healthy people don’t think about sex.  There is no need.  You enjoy the beauty of the woman – her face, her eyes, her proportion – you are simply thrilled by her being.  There is no idea to do anything to her, there is no idea to exploit, there is no idea to possess.  You are immensely interested, but very innocently.  There is no planning in your mind, there is no future, then it is a virgin relationship.  One day love can happen.  One day listening to music, dancing together, love can possess you both: you can make love to each other.  But even while making love, there is no idea – there is no mind in it.  It is innocent of mind, then it is a virgin relationship.” – Osho “I say unto you” pg. 40

A virgin relationship is very natural before you hit puberty, but once you hit puberty, it is a very rare phenomenon.  When you are a young adult, is very rare, as you age and gain wisdom, it becomes more of a possibility but still very rare.  As you gain greater skill in meditation, establishing a virgin relationship is more possible but not without great difficulty.  Because the masses of men cannot typically establish a virgin relationship, nearly all women feel used and sexually exploited.  It is a very difficult situation because it takes a man with great powers in meditation to establish a virgin relationship. – SFL May 30 2015

A Baby's Survival

A Baby’s Survival

A baby cannot survive with just friendship.  A baby needs so much more to survive. 

A baby needs milk.

A baby needs food.

A baby needs shelter.

A baby needs clothing.

A baby needs affection.

A baby needs love.

A baby needs hugs.

A baby needs kisses.

A baby needs touch.

A baby needs verbal and nonverbal communication.

Friendship alone will not make a baby survive. 

An adult has the same needs as a baby in order to feel true contentment and peace. 

The only things that can be purchased from the market are:

Milk, food, shelter, and clothing.

The things that cannot be purchased from the market are:

Affection, love, hugs, kisses, touch, and verbal and nonverbal communication.

If you try to purchase affection, hugs, and kisses, it is prostitution, it is considered a crime.  And even if not considered a crime, it is unfulfilling without love.  It is like drinking spoiled milk or eating spoiled food, it will make you vomit and it will destroy your health. 

If you try to purchase touch, it is considered something like visiting a massage parlor.  Now this is not considered a crime, but there is a big difference when someone with much love is touching your body compared to some stranger that is touching your body for compensation.  There is a spiritual disconnect and that as well is very unfulfilling.  I is like drinking watered down 5% juice compared to drinking 100% fresh squeezed juice.  Once you have tasted the 100% fresh squeezed juice, there is no turning back to the 5% juice.  It simply is unfulfilling. 

If you try to purchase verbal and nonverbal communication, it is considered something like paying to see a psychologist.  There is a spiritual disconnect.  It is financially impractical.  It is like paying $100 for a small bottle of water.  It will only quench your thirst for the time being.  Soon enough you will be out of money and your will be back in suffering. 

When you are looking for a partner.  You are seeking a partner that is able to fulfill all the above necessities for survival.  As someone that is financially independent, you may not be dependent on your partner for milk, food, shelter, and clothing.  But you will be looking towards your partner to fulfill all the other aspects I had mentioned. 

Notice that there is no mention of sex.  The word sex has been severely corrupted.  We have turned sex into something ugly.  We have used sex as a way to exploit people.  But sex is simply an extension of human affection.  It is not absolutely needed for survival, but human affection is absolutely needed.  Sex that is shared properly is an expression of love.  Sex that is shared properly is something very beautiful.  Do not turn against sex, embrace sex as something beautiful, because it truly is a beautiful expression when expressed with great love. – SFL May 29 2015

Love is Beyond Marriage

Love is Beyond Marriage

“Marriage is a false substitute for love.  A man or a woman should be allowed to choose their partners and to change their partners whenever they feel.  The government has no business in it, the society has nothing to do with it.  It is two individuals’ personal affair.  The privacy of it is sacred.  If two people want to live together, they don’t need any permission from any priest or any government.  They need the permission of their hearts.  And the day they feel that the time has come to part, again they don’t need anybody’s permission.  They can part as friends, with beautiful memories of their loving days.  Love should be the only way for men and women to live together.  No other ritual is needed.”

“If man’s love is free, there will not be blacks and whites, and there will not be these ugly discriminations, because love knows no boundaries.  You can fall in love with a black man, you can fall in love with a white man.  Love knows no religious scriptures.  It knows only the heartbeat, and it knows it with absolute certainty.  Once love is free, it will prepare the ground for other fundamental rights.” – Osho “Sermons in Stones” pg. 559-560

I promote real love, not marriage.  Real love is living, it is alive, it is in the moment.  It is a private affair, it is nobody’s business, not your parents, not your friends, not your relatives, not the courts, not the lawyers, not the judges, not the policeman, not the neighbors, not the strangers, etc.  It is nobody’s business but for the two individuals who are deeply in love.  They can share their intimacy in private; they can truly enjoy each other’s company without any outside distractions whatsoever.  The love that they share together completes them and makes them whole.  It is something positive and healing. 

Once this love is shared, this positive loving energy is then shared with the world in every expression of that human being.  Everything that he or she does becomes radiated with love, now they see the world from a whole new perspective; it has come from SD to Full HD.  Marriage attempts to make love permanent, love cannot be permanent, love lives moment to moment.  In order for love to live, there must be constant appreciation, the mind has to be dropped, the past has to be dropped, the future has to be dropped.  True love can only exist when you are in meditation.  If you practice love with meditation, it becomes eternal. – SFL April 26 2015

Not a Zen Master

Not a Zen Master

As long as a woman can make a man fall in love, he is not a Zen Master.  A Zen Master cannot be “in love.”  He may practice Zen, he may be good in Zen, but he is not a Master.  Only when his sex energies have come from boiling hot to completely calm and cool can he become a Zen Master.  It’s not about resisting oneself from falling in love, it’s about no woman being capable of making this man fall in love.  He has gone so fully into sex that the temptation to go deeper into sex is no longer there.  The time that this will happen is unknown. 

The person may have the temptation to be in love, but not be in love, this does not mean he is a Zen Master because the temptation is still there, it can be buried and suppressed, but it is still there. 

Just because a person has sex, it does not mean he is not a Zen Master.  Having sex and being able to let it go without being in love can still make the person a Zen Master.  Being passionately in the moment, is not forbidden, it is the thinking before and after the experience that determines whether this person is a Master.  If the person is constantly thinking about sex, if the person is constantly planning on how to make this sex become guaranteed for future experiences, this is a clear identifier that this person is not a Zen Master. 

The constant thinking before and after the sexual experience is what prevents this person from being a Zen Master.  A Zen Master is not someone who refrains from sex, a Zen Master is someone who has dropped all thoughts before and after and is in the moment, every moment. 

Being in love makes it impossible for someone to be a Zen Master because being in love means to constantly be in thought.  The person is so in love, that the person cannot stop thinking about his lover; this constant thinking is not Zen.  This constant thinking is the opposite of Zen.  A Zen Master has complete control of his mind; he can stop the thinking upon command.  He is a master of being in the present moment. 

The Nature of Relationships

The Nature of Relationships

The nature of relationships is like employment.  The ways of society have dynamically changed when compared to the past.  Rarely do you find individuals employed within a company for many decades of loyalty until retirement.  Individuals are switching jobs constantly, along with that comes the nature of relationships in current society.  People are switching sex partners with high frequency. 

People never vow to stay loyal to a company until death.  But yet marriage attempts to have people vow loyalty towards one another until death.  Which is always a fraudulent vow because of the option of divorce.  And with the high divorce rates, it indicates that there is no such thing as a vow till death, it is all-false.  It is not something that can be calculated and planned, a true vow till death comes naturally through time, it cannot be verbally expressed and promised.  Once verbally expressed and promised, it is already false. 

A true vow of loyalty till death can only occur out of love.  You love something so much that you don’t want to ever leave it until death; it is your life source.  You love water, you need water till death.  You love breathing; you need to breath till death.  You love movement, you will move till death.  You love exercise, you will exercise till death.  You love dancing, you will practice dance until death.  You love riding the bicycle, you will ride your bicycle till death.  You love meditation, you will practice meditation until death.  You love self-employment; you will be self-employed till death.  You love spending time with positive people; you will spend time with positive people till death. 

But love cannot be promised, once promised, it is no longer love.  Love comes naturally; you are naturally drawn towards love.  Attraction comes natural, you cannot be forced to be attracted towards a certain someone, that is why arranged marriages are wrong, attraction cannot be forced.  That is why prostitution is wrong, attraction cannot be forced, attraction has to come natural.  That is why marriage is wrong, you should never be forced to be attracted to your partner till death! 

It is your partner’s responsibility to put in the effort to make you attracted till death.  Your partner needs to put in the effort to treat you right, maintain positivity, and to take care of him or herself to maintain that mutual attraction.  Just like it is your employer’s job to keep you happy with your place of employment in order to gain your loyalty.  But if you are self-employed, now it is your own responsibility to create your own happiness within your chosen profession. 

People switch partners constantly because they don’t know what they want, they don’t know what they love.  If you know what you love, there is no need to switch, loyalty comes naturally, no contracts should ever have to be signed, loyalty comes naturally.  When you walk into a restaurant, there is never a guaranteed loyalty; you never sign a contact to state that you will return until death!  You naturally keep returning to the restaurant because you love the food!  But if the management of the restaurant changes and the food is no longer of quality, if now the food has become poisoned, then you will no longer return, that is natural, you have not vowed to keep returning until the restaurant causes your early death. 

That is like relationship, if your partner is not keeping you happy, if your partner brings misery upon your life, then it will be natural for you to have the desire to separate from this misery.  If you wish for your partner to be with you till death, then it is up to you, you must treat your partner right and you must take care of yourself in order to have your partner stay attracted, it is not so simple as to sign a contract to guarantee love from your partner until death.