Love is Beyond Marriage

Love is Beyond Marriage

“Marriage is a false substitute for love.  A man or a woman should be allowed to choose their partners and to change their partners whenever they feel.  The government has no business in it, the society has nothing to do with it.  It is two individuals’ personal affair.  The privacy of it is sacred.  If two people want to live together, they don’t need any permission from any priest or any government.  They need the permission of their hearts.  And the day they feel that the time has come to part, again they don’t need anybody’s permission.  They can part as friends, with beautiful memories of their loving days.  Love should be the only way for men and women to live together.  No other ritual is needed.”

“If man’s love is free, there will not be blacks and whites, and there will not be these ugly discriminations, because love knows no boundaries.  You can fall in love with a black man, you can fall in love with a white man.  Love knows no religious scriptures.  It knows only the heartbeat, and it knows it with absolute certainty.  Once love is free, it will prepare the ground for other fundamental rights.” – Osho “Sermons in Stones” pg. 559-560

I promote real love, not marriage.  Real love is living, it is alive, it is in the moment.  It is a private affair, it is nobody’s business, not your parents, not your friends, not your relatives, not the courts, not the lawyers, not the judges, not the policeman, not the neighbors, not the strangers, etc.  It is nobody’s business but for the two individuals who are deeply in love.  They can share their intimacy in private; they can truly enjoy each other’s company without any outside distractions whatsoever.  The love that they share together completes them and makes them whole.  It is something positive and healing. 

Once this love is shared, this positive loving energy is then shared with the world in every expression of that human being.  Everything that he or she does becomes radiated with love, now they see the world from a whole new perspective; it has come from SD to Full HD.  Marriage attempts to make love permanent, love cannot be permanent, love lives moment to moment.  In order for love to live, there must be constant appreciation, the mind has to be dropped, the past has to be dropped, the future has to be dropped.  True love can only exist when you are in meditation.  If you practice love with meditation, it becomes eternal. – SFL April 26 2015

Love is Not a Contract

Love is Not a Contract

“You fall in love with a woman and you want to make the love permanent?  Then you are in danger – you are trying to make a wave permanent.  You go to court and the court puts a seal on your marriage; now it is a legal thing.  Love has disappeared; now it is a contract, and ugly.” – Osho “The Path of Love” pg. 218

Love cannot be a contract, it is a living thing.  It is breathing, it is alive.  It cannot and will not last forever but it should be appreciated while it is alive.  Love is like a living flower.  Marriage is like a plastic plant.  The living flower has beauty, it has fragrance, it has life!  The plastic plant is dead, it is a thing, it is manufactured, it has no spirit.  Love is living moment to moment in bliss and ecstasy, it is full of happiness and joy moment to moment, it is spontaneous.  Marriage is all ego, it is the mind, it is planning for the future, it is trying to capture the love of the past to bring it into the present.  Marriage is like decorating a prison cell.  Yes the prison cell might be nicely decorated, but it is still a prison cell!  Love is out in the open, being a part of nature, being close to the animals, to the blue skies, to the sun, to the moon, to the stars, to the plants, to the people.  Love is freedom. 

Marriage is a self-imposed subtle form of slavery.  What is of significance for a couple is not how long they have been married, but rather how long have they been in love?  If they have been married for 10 years but they have only been in love for 2 years, then it is the 2 years of love that is significant.  Marriage with no love is worthless.  It is like a body with no heart, it becomes a corpse.  Or a vehicle with no engine, maybe beautiful on the outside but without the engine what is the use?  Marriage is a mask, love is the spiritual substance within that brings joy to life.  Marriage without love is a self-imposed prison.  Love is freedom and bliss.  You either love and be free from marriage or you love while being married without allowing marriage to destroy the love you have within, love will always be stronger than marriage.

The Nature of Relationships

The Nature of Relationships

The nature of relationships is like employment.  The ways of society have dynamically changed when compared to the past.  Rarely do you find individuals employed within a company for many decades of loyalty until retirement.  Individuals are switching jobs constantly, along with that comes the nature of relationships in current society.  People are switching sex partners with high frequency. 

People never vow to stay loyal to a company until death.  But yet marriage attempts to have people vow loyalty towards one another until death.  Which is always a fraudulent vow because of the option of divorce.  And with the high divorce rates, it indicates that there is no such thing as a vow till death, it is all-false.  It is not something that can be calculated and planned, a true vow till death comes naturally through time, it cannot be verbally expressed and promised.  Once verbally expressed and promised, it is already false. 

A true vow of loyalty till death can only occur out of love.  You love something so much that you don’t want to ever leave it until death; it is your life source.  You love water, you need water till death.  You love breathing; you need to breath till death.  You love movement, you will move till death.  You love exercise, you will exercise till death.  You love dancing, you will practice dance until death.  You love riding the bicycle, you will ride your bicycle till death.  You love meditation, you will practice meditation until death.  You love self-employment; you will be self-employed till death.  You love spending time with positive people; you will spend time with positive people till death. 

But love cannot be promised, once promised, it is no longer love.  Love comes naturally; you are naturally drawn towards love.  Attraction comes natural, you cannot be forced to be attracted towards a certain someone, that is why arranged marriages are wrong, attraction cannot be forced.  That is why prostitution is wrong, attraction cannot be forced, attraction has to come natural.  That is why marriage is wrong, you should never be forced to be attracted to your partner till death! 

It is your partner’s responsibility to put in the effort to make you attracted till death.  Your partner needs to put in the effort to treat you right, maintain positivity, and to take care of him or herself to maintain that mutual attraction.  Just like it is your employer’s job to keep you happy with your place of employment in order to gain your loyalty.  But if you are self-employed, now it is your own responsibility to create your own happiness within your chosen profession. 

People switch partners constantly because they don’t know what they want, they don’t know what they love.  If you know what you love, there is no need to switch, loyalty comes naturally, no contracts should ever have to be signed, loyalty comes naturally.  When you walk into a restaurant, there is never a guaranteed loyalty; you never sign a contact to state that you will return until death!  You naturally keep returning to the restaurant because you love the food!  But if the management of the restaurant changes and the food is no longer of quality, if now the food has become poisoned, then you will no longer return, that is natural, you have not vowed to keep returning until the restaurant causes your early death. 

That is like relationship, if your partner is not keeping you happy, if your partner brings misery upon your life, then it will be natural for you to have the desire to separate from this misery.  If you wish for your partner to be with you till death, then it is up to you, you must treat your partner right and you must take care of yourself in order to have your partner stay attracted, it is not so simple as to sign a contract to guarantee love from your partner until death. 

Jealousy, Anger, Revenge is NOT Love

Jealousy, Anger, Revenge is NOT Love

I am quite aggravated with mass media promoting death, revenge, lust, jealously, possessiveness, control, manipulation, anger, etc. in the name of love.    Love has nothing to do with any of these.  Mass media is teaching you, if your husband has an affair, you must seek revenge.  Infidelity is seen as such a criminal act!  Infidelity is judged to be as worse as murder.  Mass media is teaching you that infidelity deserves the death penalty!  Mass media is teaching you that if your husband or wife “cheats” on you, there is no forgiveness, ever!

Because you wish to be affectionate and loving towards another human being of whom you are attracted to, this is seen as a horrible crime, every movie teaches this mentality.  It is no wonder we live in a society that is mentally sick.  You wonder why that cop killer, shot his girlfriend, chances are its because she was “cheating.”  There was also a famous black couple where the husband killed his wife and then killed himself because she was suspected of “cheating” on him with other celebrities. 

There’s another news article of a man who killed 5 people and himself when his wife left him for a younger man.  This is what is being taught to us in mass media.  If someone “cheats” on you, seek revenge; the person who “cheats” deserves death.  This person of whom you are intimate with, simply is on the pursuit of happiness, this person has found happiness with someone else other than you, to me that is not a crime, that is something natural, it is an extension of positive energy, it is a spreading of love. 

Real love knows no past; real love is moment to moment.  Real love the person shares positive energy to all whom are willing to accept.  Real love is like a Jesus or a Buddha, love is open to all, this then develops into what we call compassion.  Mass media has been destroying the meaning of love for so many centuries that we now think that hatred, jealousy, possessiveness, and murder are love.  These things have nothing to do with love. 

If your partner has found happiness with someone else, either you need to rejoice and share this happiness with your partner or you can be happy for your partner that he or she has found happiness and that it may be the time for you two to separate.  Separate not with anger and hostility, but separate because it was just the right time to separate, separate out of love.  Like a child going off to college.  Like an adult graduating from college.  Like an adult receiving a promotion from another company that has presented greater opportunities of growth.  Like the death of a loved one.  It is a natural separation, a separation with love.

A partner who finds happiness and love with another is either choosing to share his or her positivity and loving energy with another or the partner simply feels it is the right time for you two to separate based on a love separation.  Neither of the two is a negative thing.  It is all positive, it is all filled with love and should be accepted with happiness. 

If I directed a movie, it would go as follows.  Man and woman are in love, having great sex every single day and night.  5 years goes by of blissfulness.  Man or woman ends up meeting someone at work of whom he or she is attracted to, man or woman ends up becoming intimate with this new person, other man or woman finds out, man or woman ends up joining in on the fun!  Or man or woman accepts the separation with love and then ends up finding another great man or woman to enjoy intimacy with until the cycle repeats itself all over again.