Negative Spouse

Your spouse must grow with you spiritually, if she does not, she becomes your handicap.  If you’re not a smoker, but your spouse loves cigarettes and fills up the entire home with smoke, it will fuck up your health.  If your spouse is not spiritually developed & she fills up the entire home with negative energy, it will fuck you up psychologically.  Your spouse needs to grow as you grow, if she fails to grow and refuses to grow, it may be best to move forward.  If you take care of your physical health but your spouse does not, you may quickly lose your attraction towards her.  Not everyone is guaranteed to grow and develop, some people move backwards in life.  If your spouse is moving backwards and you are moving forward, it may be best to separate in order for you to grow to your full potential. 

Love is Not a Contract

Love is Not a Contract

The teachings of the Koran that allows the Muslims to have up to 4 wives makes much more sense than the traditional one man one woman marriage.  If a man is able and capable of raising more than one child, I do not see how he cannot be capable of caring for and protecting more than one woman.  The presence of other women will force all the women within the relationship to keep better order, knowing that the man can favor another wife when they start acting up will force the woman to learn to control her undesirable behavior. 

An entire culture of women that are used to sharing their husband with other wives teaches women to grow beyond jealousy.  An only child can easily grow to become spoiled, jealous, and possessive of his parents attention.  Growing up with siblings teaches you to share the attention of your parents. 

Women in the adult industry, strippers, porn “actresses”, are essentially sharing themselves with many men. They are living a lifestyle as if they have multiple husbands.  Many women have chosen this way of living.  Even women who are not in the industry that are having relationships with multiple men are already living the lifestyle as if they have multiple husbands, it is not uncommon.  The traditional one man one woman marriage is not practical for modern society. 

Marriage is essentially a contract.  I do not believe in contracts, it is either in your heart to love or not.  If it is not in your heart to love, then you should separate, if it is in your heart to love, then you can love.  Love cannot be saved for future use, love is something that happens in the moment.  Contracts are of the future, the future is not the Way.  Only the present moment is the Way.  The present moment is not bound by contract. 

Marriage is against "The Way"

Marriage is against “The Way”

Marriage is saving yourself for one person, the Way is sharing yourself with all.  It does not have to be sexual, I am speaking in regards to the spirit.  Marriage is allowing you to only help one woman and the children you have with this woman to grow spiritually, the Way requires you to help all of humanity grow spiritually. 

Marriage is being a teacher of the household, the lowest level.  The next level is being a teacher of a University.  The highest level is being a teacher for all of humanity.  Marriage limits your potential to grow; the growth potential of the Way is limitless.  Marriage is for the amateur; the Way is for the expert.  Marriage is a preparation towards the true Way. 

We must go through marriage in order to truly understand the deficiencies of marriage.  We must go through the ego and understand the ego in order to liberate ourselves from the ego.  Buddha himself was married, with a child & he saw the limitations.  He left this comfortable family life and decided to be a teacher for all of humanity, not just a teacher for the household.

The spouse does not want the sage to share his teachings with the world, the spouse demands the sage to keep his teachings only within the household.  The spouse wants to claim individual ownership over the sage, restricting the sage from entering into humanity and teaching all of humanity.  As the sage grows, he needs to cut off the marriage in order to continue his growth.  The sage may begin being married, not knowing the limitations of marriage, but as he grows, he will eventually be required to go beyond marriage. 

The great teachers of this world, Buddha, Osho, and Lao-tzu were sages not bound and limited by marriage.  Buddha started to grow beyond marriage once his interest towards enlightenment was sparked.  If the spouse is enlightened herself, there is no need for marriage.  Enlightenment creates the awareness of the limitations of marriage.    

Search, rescue, and duh

Yesterday was another day of ups and downs. An interesting thing, however, occurred involving losing my phone. Here's the two-part punch line: first, keeping a lot of garbage around makes finding what you lost difficult; and second, when something goes missing, don't rule yourself out as the culprit.

I went out to kayak on the lake and was gone a long time. While out there I was collecting trash into a bag that I found (also trash). I planned on being out for a while, so I took my phone – enclosed in three Ziploc bags and paper towel. Because this is a sort of meditative activity for me, I turned the ringer off.

Four hours later and much choppier water, I got back home, only to tip out of the boat and flood it. It was an ordeal to get the boat emptied and back ashore over a break wall. I was exhausted, visibly so, and a neighbor and good friend invited me to have lunch with him. I left my paddle, life vest, keys, the garbage bag, and my phone on the deck.

When I returned a couple hours later (Wimbledon semifinal between Murray and Janowicz, great show), I gathered up my stuff, threw out the bag of trash, and went in to my place to collapse. I woke wondering where my phone was, and I searched everywhere. I remembered going to the pier, I tried to remember taking it upstairs, so I...nope, I DID NOT call my neighbor because I had no phone. I was petty sure I left it...in the bags. Someone took my phone.

Yeah. I have no trust. I should have thought, "someone picked up my phone." Not, "stole."

The gist of the tale is that someone had picked up the phone bag, but thought it was also trash, and threw it in the bag I collected all the lake-trash in. Technically, I threw out my own phone.

I didn't figure this out until knocking on doors and looking through dumpsters for the bag I remembered putting my phone in. On realizing I had lifted the bag of trash I myself threw in to look for my float-bags, I laughed with relief and irony.

Anyway, if I smell a little funky the next time you see me at class, it isn't me. It's my phone.

Fuck Marriage

Since I was enlightened, I’ve never agreed with the concept of marriage.  It is unnatural for a human being to be completely monogamous with just one human being for the entirety of our lives.  By nature we are meant to be attracted to beautiful things and this includes beautiful humans.  Marriage is an attempt to deny this natural attraction to others.  Marriage seeks to force us to be attracted to only one human being for the entirety of our lives.  This is unnatural, this leads us towards suppression, suppression then leads us towards mental illness.  Mental illness comes in the form of jealousy & possessiveness. 

Imagine a married couple being together for 10 years with 5 children in happiness.  Imagine the husband giving just one woman a simple hug or a showing of affection and then the wife being so inflamed with jealousy that she wishes to throw away the entire 10 marriage & ruin the lives of the 5 children just because of this. 

This is happening over and over in all marriages across the country.  We are so ready to pick up and leave because our “spouse” showed affection towards another human being.  How fucking ridiculous is this shit!?

Imagine a married couple being together for 10 years being completely sexually exclusive.  And just for one day, the man OR woman decided to be intimate with another, and then based on that one single action alone, the entire marriage is thrown down the drain, how fucking ridiculous is this shit!?  That’s like throwing somebody in jail who has had a perfect driving record for 10 years that just accidently gets in a very minor traffic accident.  The person had a perfect driving record for 10 years!  Your going to throw him in jail for one minor traffic accident?

Marriage is a fucked up idea & a fucked up way of living, it drives people mentally insane.  We are meant to be free & we are meant to love based on this freedom.  We are not meant to be forced to be together by law FOREVER. 

Imagine you just got divorced from your husband or wife for “cheating” on you 1 time in a span of 10 years.  You spend 2 years trying to recover from the psychological damage that has occurred to you because your spouse shared his or her body with another human being in intimacy.  After going to the psychologist for many years now you feel you are ready to date again.  You start dating and fucking a new stranger of whom you “trust.”  You don’t know the true history of this stranger, you never have and you never will.  But the truth is that this stranger has had sex with at least 10 multiple partners within the last month.  But yet you are ready and willing to give yourself to this stranger over your former husband or wife who only had one different sex partner in the last 10 years!  Shit is ridiculous and does not make sense at all. 

If you are to get a divorce, you should be celibate, because if not, you are just going to repeat the same cycle over again, it’s the same damn shit.  There is no such thing as true monogamy, it does not exist.  It is a figment of your imagination that has been constantly fed to your brain by the media and society.  Meet one “cheating” husband or wife and the next person you meet will be the same.  The only difference is in degrees.  One husband or wife may be able to last 20 years without being affectionate with someone else while another may only be able to last 20 days. 

It’s fucking sad how we have to hide sex and affection away from public view like it is fucking crack or some shit.  Affection and love is a beautiful thing but us humans have corrupted it so bad that we have turned it into something completely ugly, and we label this shit marriage.  I say fuck Marriage like the way I say fuck MMA, the shit is fucking garbage.  We should be bounded by Love & freewill, not bounded by Law.

Independance and values

A lot of people hate on FMK, on the internet we can see a lot of dislikes and all that. A lot of people doesn't like the way Freddie put things on perspective. Let me put it like this; if you wanted tomorrow, to have the realest, the truest, the most effective Martial Arts School and all that by keeping a sincere relationship with 'The Way' and the people surrounding you, PLUS starting from scratch with barely nothing. You would then probably realize how tough it is to create this Kwoon.

It would be easy to accept all kinds of people in your Kwoon for the money, it would be easy to drop a principle here and there just to go mainstream. But staying REAL from day ONE until your timeline expires would be a hell of a challenge.

We as people in general don't have to be harsh with our values because we don't have a school to represent,   and we don't have students who value our teachings. We as people in general don't have 5 kids to love and educate with a beautiful wife with who we have to maintain a healthy relationship, all that with having a Kwoon, not just your everyday kwoon, a REAL, AUTHENTIC, INDEPENDANT, DEEP and MATURE ONE.

So to everybody who don't understand all that. I won't say fuck you, because it would be too easy to say. I would say just imagine and put yourself in perspective; if you had to wear Freddie's shoes tomorrow, you would probably fall right on your face. Get the man, his family and his students the respect they deserve.
Enough said!

Hidden Power

A woman is only powerful when her power is hidden.  If she exposes this power with arrogance, she will be crushed by the powerful man.  All Martial Art “styles” that are Yin based must remember this.  If a woman learns to yield, she can overcome the powerful.  If she attempts to fight head on, she will eventually be crushed.  It is the law of nature. 

In order for the man to truly become all powerful, he must learn to perfect this hidden power of women.  In order for the woman to truly become all powerful, she must learn to perfect the power of man.

There is outside power and there is inside power.  Men naturally have outside power, women naturally have inside power, both must merge together to create true power. 

This is not just in regards to Man and Women.  It is the understanding between Yin/Yang.  The men who appear to be weak, skinny, and small can actually represent the “woman”.