Being in Love

Being in Love

“When you fall in love with a woman or with a man, what do you come to know?  What is love?  In a very tiny way, you come to feel that you are not separate.  In a very, very small way, on a small scale, you start feeling that you are meant for each other, that one is not whole without the other, that the other is a must, that the other is part of your soul and your being, that the other is not outside you.  Somehow he is inside you, yet outside; and you are inside him, and yet outside.  Lovers penetrate into each other.  It is not only a sexual metaphor; the penetration is spiritual, the sexual is only a shadow of it.”

“Lovers penetrate into each other.  Their boundaries are blurred, they become nebulous, their definitions become shaky.  When living with a woman or with a man for many years, and suddenly the woman dies or the man dies, the pain that is felt, the suffering, the agony that is felt by the partner who is left behind is not only because somebody has died.  It is because now he will never be whole.  It is because now a part of his being is destroyed completely, utterly.  Now there will exist a black hole in his being, an abyss, emptiness.  When a lover dies, something deep inside you dies too.  You had become so together; your life was no longer separate, it was overlapping.  You were in two bodies, but you had become one soul - that is the meaning of love.” – Osho “The Path of Love” pg. 186

When I have fell in love, I have become one with the women that I loved.  The separation, the breakup, was like death.  When we were together, I felt complete.  When we were apart I felt broken.  A lover can double your energies to 200% or a lover can drain your energy to 50%.  It is clear that the union is beautiful and can enhance your life in so many ways but it is inevitable that the opposite can happen as well. You become so at one with your lover, that whatever affects them affects you as well.  If they take care of themselves, you are taken care of, if they destroy themselves, you are destroyed.  Therefore it is important to only fall in love with those whom have great self-love.