Not a Zen Master
As long as a woman can make a man fall in love, he is not a Zen Master. A Zen Master cannot be “in love.” He may practice Zen, he may be good in Zen, but he is not a Master. Only when his sex energies have come from boiling hot to completely calm and cool can he become a Zen Master. It’s not about resisting oneself from falling in love, it’s about no woman being capable of making this man fall in love. He has gone so fully into sex that the temptation to go deeper into sex is no longer there. The time that this will happen is unknown.
The person may have the temptation to be in love, but not be in love, this does not mean he is a Zen Master because the temptation is still there, it can be buried and suppressed, but it is still there.
Just because a person has sex, it does not mean he is not a Zen Master. Having sex and being able to let it go without being in love can still make the person a Zen Master. Being passionately in the moment, is not forbidden, it is the thinking before and after the experience that determines whether this person is a Master. If the person is constantly thinking about sex, if the person is constantly planning on how to make this sex become guaranteed for future experiences, this is a clear identifier that this person is not a Zen Master.
The constant thinking before and after the sexual experience is what prevents this person from being a Zen Master. A Zen Master is not someone who refrains from sex, a Zen Master is someone who has dropped all thoughts before and after and is in the moment, every moment.
Being in love makes it impossible for someone to be a Zen Master because being in love means to constantly be in thought. The person is so in love, that the person cannot stop thinking about his lover; this constant thinking is not Zen. This constant thinking is the opposite of Zen. A Zen Master has complete control of his mind; he can stop the thinking upon command. He is a master of being in the present moment.