Dependence and Slavery
Once you become dependent on anybody, you become enslaved. If you depend on somebody for happiness, then this same person will have the power to make you unhappy. They go together, this person has power and control over you.
You see this dynamic in relationships many times. Many relationships are a co-dependent. Both individuals imprison one another; both individual’s enslave one another. It is a mutual agreement to severe one another’s freedom and way of life.
The wife tells the husband to have no friends but her, the husband tells the wife to have no friends but him. The wife tells the husband what clothing to wear, the husband tells the wife what clothing she should wear. The wife tells the husband where he should work, the husband tells the wife where she should work. The wife tells the husband what he should spend his money on, the husband tells the wife what she should spend her money on. The wife tells the husband not to go out late at night. The husband tells the wife not to go out late at night.
The restrictions keep compounding and compounding up to the point where husband and wife have locked each other in a small prison cell. No longer free and open to the public. A real relationship based on freedom and love has no prison cell. Both man and woman, not “husband” and “wife”, but both man and woman are free individuals, there is no prison cell present. There are just two human beings that have total freedom to be together or not be together.
They can leave, they can stay.
They can spend, they can save.
They can dress how they like.
They can spend time with whom they like.
They can go out late at night.
They can be together as if they are not together.
They respect each other’s freedom.
Neither is dependent on each other for happiness. They have their happiness that comes from within and they share this happiness with one another in freedom.