Too Many Relationships
The more relationships you have, the more difficult it will be to maintain happiness within all these relationships. If there are 50 people you love, it will be very difficult to maintain that love for all 50 individuals. The more people you love, the more it increases the chances of pain and suffering. If there are only 5 individuals of whom you love, it will be easier to manage. If you try too hard to maintain too many relationships, a majority of them are bound to fail, and this will cause much pain and suffering.
Think about all the different loving relationships that we have. Our mother, father, brothers, sisters, cousins, boyfriends, girlfriends, sons, daughters, cousins, uncles, aunts, grandparents, friends, students, disciples, etc.
The problem is that you don’t even get along with your own brother and then you try to seek out a new friendship with a stranger. The problem is that you don’t even get along with your own father and then you go seeking out for a father figure. Without a strong foundation of love, all relationships are bound to fail.
If we don’t work on strengthening the relationships that really matter then what we are doing is just trying to build a house with a deck of cards, there is no foundation, we think we have built one house to move onto the next and then all of a sudden the wind blows over the cards and we have to start all over.
If we use bricks to build the house, the house will last, then when the house is finished we can work on building the next house. But what is important is the quality, not the quantity. It is better to have one real friend than 50 friends all disguised as enemies. A real friend does not come by often, you may be lucky to find one every 10 years. Through the test of time you will be able to determine the real from the false. When enough time has passed, the real friend becomes family. Family is the foundation of love. Without love in the family, you will be wandering aimlessly destroying every relationship you encounter. The lesson is to fix the foundation before seeking to build.
Do not have a child with a woman where the love is not strong. Do not decide to have a 2nd child, when there is no love for the first. You have not learned to develop a solid foundation with anyone, so any relationship you seek to build is bound to destruct until you learn to break the cycle by refocusing on the relationships that are truly important rather than running away from them in which to seek out new ones to build which will also eventually destruct. – SFL May 30 2015