Being Single, On Welfare, Living With Roommates, Representing True Art
I see nothing wrong with being single, being on welfare, and living with roommates. There is beauty in being single that should be appreciated, but at the same time, I can understand the desire to connect with a woman in an intimate level. Living with roommates is a smart and practical way of living efficiently. I guess the best is if your lover becomes your roommate, that way you kill 2 birds with one stone! The need for love is fulfilled, as well as the practical function of having a roommate that you can share expenses with.
As far as being on welfare is concerned, there are simply not enough well paying jobs in the economy to allow for everyone to live comfortably. You can work 40 hours per week doing a manual labor job that is very difficult barely getting paid anything. You are working harder than a lot of these white-collar occupations where they get paid 4 times as much to do less than half the work. Welfare is a system built in place to balance out the inequality between the rich and the poor; I do not see that it should be something you are ashamed about.
It’s like being ashamed of being born into a poor immigrant family. It’s nothing to be ashamed about, that’s where you came from. It’s like being ashamed about being born in the “ghettos” of Chicago, the number one murder capital of the nation. Well it’s where you came from; it’s nothing to be ashamed about. Sometimes the entertainment media even glorifies these things in which to make people feel proud of coming from the ghettos, or of growing up “hard.” It should not be glorified, you should not feel proud, but you should not feel ashamed either, you should simply accept your situation with no judgment. That is the way of meditation.
Finding a lover is a beautiful thing, but I see it requires much self-development. A lot of hard work must be put in developing yourself body, mind, and spirit. If you do not put in the hard work, I see it to be unreasonable for you to have the mistaken belief that a beautiful woman is just going to show up at your doorstep ready to love you fully. By hard work I mean, I a lot of physical training, good nutrition, finding a good paying job that you love, effort towards developing your intelligence, effort towards healing your psychological wounds, effort towards understanding your inner psychology, effort towards developing wisdom, effort towards living the way of meditation. Only in this way will I see that a real relationship can be developed that is aimed towards love. You must care for yourself before you can care for another. Being independent is important so that you will not grow dependency on another no matter it be financially, physically, or emotionally. You must be completely independent, only then will you be ready and capable of sharing real love.
I see that we should not dream. All dreams are false. Dreams are ways of taking us away from the present moment. Dreams are not the way of meditation. Dreams will always make you feel that this moment right now is not good enough. No matter how rich you are or how beautiful and loving your wife is, you can always dream for more. Dream for more women, more children, more money, more fame, more friends, more power, etc. Dreams are a disease. The way of meditation teaches you to heal yourself from this disease.
It’s important to act. If your ego is holding you back from growing and progressing, then you must face up to this ego and demolish it. If your ego is making you freeze up unable to talk to a beautiful woman because of too much self-consciousness, you must destroy this ego.
Love and work cannot intermix. If you are a true Artist, that means you love your Art. If you love your Art, it cannot turn into a business. The business must stay separated from love. Love with you and your spouse can never be intermixed with business, business destroys love. Business destroys true Art. All true Artists must keep their Arts and Businesses separated. A true Martial Artist will not be able to profit from his Art but he can profit from something very much related to his passion, such as becoming a Personal Fitness Trainer, Self-Defense Instructor, Police Officer, Security Guard, Psychologist, Doctor, Carpenter, Actor, etc. Bruce Lee for example was a true Martial Artist, but even he could not profit much from sharing his Art, he had to become an Actor in order to profit and make a living.